When we talk about pregnancy, we often focus on the joy, excitement, and anticipation of bringing new life into the world. But for many women, the experience includes heartbreak—pregnancy loss. And the truth is, we don’t talk about it enough. Losing a pregnancy, whether it’s early on or further along, can be one of the most isolating and painful experiences a woman faces. But you’re not alone. There’s a whole community of women who have walked this road, and it’s okay to grieve, cry, and feel everything that comes with it.
Holding space for pregnancy loss means creating a safe environment to honor those feelings.
There’s no “right way” to grieve. For some, it looks like journaling through the pain. For others, it’s talking with friends or quietly processing in their own time. And while well-meaning people may offer comforting phrases like, “Everything happens for a reason,” or “You can try again,” those words can often feel hollow. What many women need most is simply to be heard and understood.
I’ve personally had an early miscarriage, as well as seen firsthand how deeply heartbreaking pregnancy loss can be, both through close friends of mine and through births I’ve attended. It often feels like losing a piece of yourself. Like a hole in your heart that can never be filled. There’s often a sense of guilt, shame, or feeling that somehow, their body failed them. But let me remind you: You are not broken. Your body is not broken.
If you’ve experienced loss, allow yourself the grace to heal, in whatever way that looks like for you.
There’s no timeline, no checklist for grief. And if you’re supporting someone who’s had a pregnancy loss, the best thing you can do is just be there. No advice needed. Just presence, love, and compassion.
This journey can feel overwhelming, but remember, you don’t have to carry it alone. Whether you find comfort in a partner’s arms, in a friend’s quiet support, or through a healing community of women, or a trauma specialist, give yourself permission to lean into that love.
If you find yourself needing support, please check out these resources:
Birth, Breath & Death
Liz Guerra – Colorado Springs Bereavement Doula
Christie Davis – Colorado Springs midwife who specializes in helping heal from trauma
Parr Photo Co – personal experience in pregnancy loss at 36 weeks
