Sometimes conceiving a baby comes easily, “It happened the first try!”
And sometimes it’s a struggle. Years of tears, options, money, doctor appointments, sleepless nights, shots, pills, miscarriages, anxiety, devastation, loss of hope, suspended happiness, gut-wrenching pain. A journey that you fear to ever enter more than once.
And sometimes it’s the little pink lines on the pregnancy test that was unplanned, uninvited, a result of trauma or abuse.
Having children, becoming pregnant, entering into motherhood…it all is such an emotional journey and a DEEPLY personal one, that noone but the person themself is fully privy to.
So ALL the questions and comments around conception and pregnancy and mothering can be such triggers. When you ask questions, please phrase them with caution and have an open mind for an answer that doesn’t fit into our cultural norm or 
your preconceptions. When someone gets married don’t let the first question after the honeymoon be “when are you going to have kids?” When someone tells you that they are pregnant don’t assume that they are overjoyed. When someone says they don’t want to have children don’t assume that they are being selfish. When someone has 9 kids don’t assume that they are being irresponsible. You don’t know what they’ve been through or the journey that they are on. It’s DEEPLY personal.
Pay attention to your reaction and what it says about YOU and YOUR beliefs. Because I can assure you that your reaction about their life has WAY more to do with what you believe and your own shame in that area.
What question do you wish people would stop asking about conception, pregnancy, motherhood, or a choice to not have children?
THERE’S AN APP FOR THAT!
HELPFUL APPS DURING PREGNANCY AND POSTPARTUM
- Huckleberry Baby Tracker
- Little Mother’s Helper
- Oh Baby! Mom and Baby Exercise
- Expectful – Meditation and Sleep
- Overcome Postpartum Anxiety and Depression
