When you feel overwhelmed, do you have an easy time asking for help?
When I ask mothers this question, about 95% of the time they say that they feel guilty when they ask others for help! This needs to change!!
As mothers, we used to live in tribes and raise our children together because we were not created to go through this life alone!! In our current society, we are expected to do it all, to be self-sufficient, and to not need help. If you need help you are weak. But honestly, when I see women asking for help I see them as strong! I see a woman who is self-aware, who is valuing her mental health, who is living in community with others, who is strong enough to be vulnerable.
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When others ask me for a small favor, a favor that I know could help ease a lot of their stress, I try to always say yes. Yes, I will watch your child for you for an hour so that you can have that important phone call without a screaming kid in the background who wants your attention. Yes, I will watch your child while you go to the doctor’s office so you don’t have to hold your squirmy child while the doctor is sticking a needle in you. Yes, I will make you a meal so that you don’t have to sacrifice nourishing yourself because you are so busy studying for that big test. Yes.
I support you, dear mama, because I know that I also need support. Because I will ask you to support me as well and I will do so without feeling like I’m a burden on you, without guilt, but instead with pleasure.
Giving and receiving help isn’t a sacrifice, it’s actually a beautiful way to bless others.
In our online postpartum course Thrive Postpartum we have a module about the art of asking for help and we have created tools to make it a habit for you to ask for help in small daily ways. This is so important for your health and sustainability so you don’t burn out or grow bitter and angry.
Click here to sign up for information on the course and emails to help guide you into more support.
